Blauner, Bob, ed. Our
mothers' spirits: on the death of
mothers and the grief of men: an
anthology. New York: Regan Books, 1997. 315p. I hope my mother
never dies, but do “not” give this to me right after her passing.
Bowlby, John. Attachment and loss. New York:
Basic Books, 1969-1980. 3
volumes: v. 1. Attachment; v. 2. Separation: anxiety and anger; v. 3.
Loss: Sadness and depression. A classic of depth that has yet to be
surpassed.
Colgrove, Melba, Harold
H. Bloomfield & Peter A. McWilliams.
How to survive the loss of a
love: 58 things to do when there is
nothing to be done. New York: Leo Press & Simon & Schuster, 1976.
131p. Toronto; New York:
Bantam Books, 1983. Los
Angeles: Prelude Press, 1991. 212p.
Two places. Meant to help from
seasoned helpers in helpee language. I
love the “lack” of pretense in “58” (instead of “55,” “60” or “50”) and in
“nothing to be done.” They understand.
Conrad, Bonnie
Hunt. Who will sing to me now?: Young
woman's mysterious death and her mother's journey through grief. Baltimore, MD: Books Unlimited, 1995.
280p. Two places. Precious heart, indeed. The place where mystery, meaninglessness and
grief seem to meet in cruelty of the world.
Dietrich, David R., & Peter C. Shabad, eds. The problem of loss and
mourning: psychoanalytic perspectives. Madison, CT: International Universities Press, 1989. 499p. On the wish list
for its scope and vision.
Goldberg, Ivan K.,
Austin H. Kutscher, Sidney Malitz & Lilliam G. Kutscher, eds. Pain,
anxiety, and grief: pharmacotherapeutic
care of the dying patient and the bereaved. New York: Columbia
University Press, 1986. 228p.
Goldman, Linda. Breaking the silence: a guide to help children with complicated
grief--suicide, homicide, AIDS, violence, and abuse. Washington, DC: Accelerated Development, 1996.
231p.
Harvey, John H. Embracing their memory: loss and the social psychology of
storytelling. Boston: Allyn & Bacon, 1996. 232p.
“Storytelling”: seem it should
have had a place in grief publication long ago.
Iserson, Kenneth V. Grave
words: notifying survivors about
sudden, unexpected deaths. Tucson,
AZ: Galen Press, 1999. 342p.
Two places. “Grave words”: what a play on words, but how direct for
those who have to bear the news to the bereaved.
Keller, Helen
(1880-1968). We bereaved. New York: L. Fulenwider, Inc., 1929. 39p.
Two places, because of the who wrote it. Want very much. Would like this for a gift and will snatch it up for ten times
the original price for even a worn copy—just because of the author.
Prend, Ashley
Davis. Transcending loss:
understanding the lifelong impact of grief and how to make it meaningful. New York:
Berkley Books, 1997. 280p. On my wish list for the title alone: seems to state the essence of the journey of
grief where there is no such thing as actual healing only adaptation and,
indeed, a transcendence. The essence of
which says: loss has a permanent affect
and here it is.
Raphael, Beverley. The
anatomy of bereavement. New
York: Basic Books, 1983. 440p.
Northvale, NJ: Jason Aronson,
1994. 440p. Another tomb of descriptive breadth.
Rapoport, Nessa, & Rochelle Rubinstein Kaplan. A
woman's book of grieving. New
York: W. Morrow, 1994. 107p.
For women with depth of soul.
Read, Peter. Returning
to nothing: the meaning of lost places. Cambridge, UK; New York, NY: Cambridge
University Press, 1996. 240p.
Not for those who have trouble with understanding the meaning of
“meaning.”
Shuchter, Stephen R. Dimensions of grief: adjusting to the death of a spouse. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 1986.
360p. Seemed to be the most
substantial.
Smith, Kymberly, ed. Healing the pain of pet loss: letters in memoriam. Philadelphia, PA: Charles Press, 1996.
190p. Why here, you ask. Because we could not find a book
“letters in memoriam” for deceased “people.”
This is included more to our own shame.
Not to shame the real pain of pet owners, but we should never displace
persons for pets in any category—so it seems.
Viorst, Judith. Necessary losses: the loves, illusions, dependencies and impossible expectations that all of us have to give up in order
to grow. New York: Simon and Schuster, 1986. 447p.
Large print ed.: South Yarmouth,
MA: J. Curley, 1986. 651p.
Two places. Descriptive, deep,
electric. How could one person
accomplish this? A masterpiece.
Wolpe, David J. Making
loss matter: creating meaning in
difficult times. New York: Riverhead Books, 1999. 226p.
Let’s go to work.
Barber, Cyril J., & Sharalee Aspenleiter. Through the valley of
tears: encouragement and guidance for
the bereaved. Old Tappan, NJ: F.H. Revell Co., 1987. 224p.
Christian. Seems to state: read me when your crying.
Blauner, Bob, ed. Our
mothers' spirits: on the death of
mothers and the grief of men: an
anthology. New York: Regan Books, 1997. 315p.
Bregman, Lucy, &
Sara Thiermann. First person mortal: personal
narratives of dying, death, and grief.
New York: Paragon House,
1995. 202p.
Clark, Martha Bittle. Are you weeping with me, God? Nashville, TN: Broadman Press, 1987.
112p. “Are you, God?” is the all
too common question of the bereaved who have great love for the deceased.
Colgrove, Melba, Harold
H. Bloomfield & Peter A. McWilliams.
How to survive the loss of a
love: 58 things to do when there is
nothing to be done. New York: Leo Press & Simon & Schuster, 1976.
131p. Toronto; New York:
Bantam Books, 1983. Los
Angeles: Prelude Press, 1991. 212p.
Two places. Meant to help from
seasoned helpers in helpee language. I
love the “lack” of pretense in “58” and in “nothing to be done.” They understand.
Conn, Charles W. When your upright world turns upside
down: coping with the tragedies of life. Cleveland, TN: Pathway Press, 1990.
279p.
Conrad, Bonnie
Hunt. Who will sing to me now?: Young
woman's mysterious death and her mother's journey through grief. Baltimore, MD: Books Unlimited, 1995.
280p. Two places. Precious heart, indeed. The place where mystery, meaninglessness and
grief seem to meet in cruelty of the world.
Coryell, Deborah Morris. Good grief:
healing through the shadow of loss.
Santa Fe, NM: Shiva Foundation,
1997. 137p.
Davidman, Lynn. Motherloss. Berkeley, CA: University
of California Press, 2000.
Dayton, Tian. Heartwounds: the impact of unresolved trauma and grief on relationships. Deerfield Beach, FA: Health Communications, 1997. 259p.
Dykstra, Robert. She
never said good-bye: one man's journey
through loss. Foreword by Norman
Vincent Peale. Wheaton, IL: H. Shaw Publishers, 1989. 119p.
Edelman, Hope, ed. Letters
from motherless daughters: words of
courage, grief, and healing.
Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley Pub.
Co., 1995. 162p.
Ellis, Clifford R. Last
will and testament of a lover: a
journey through grief. Norval,
Ont.: Moulin Pub., 1997. 149p.
Oh, yes, I feel as if I am my own executor, forever parting with a
life-long treasure though I myself survive.
What injustice we face in life?
Elmer, Lon. Why her, why now: a man's
journey through love, and death, and grief. Seattle, WA: Signal Elm
Press & Moving Books, 1987. 213p.
New York: Bantam Books,
1990. 209p.
Engram, Sara. Mortal matters: when a loved one dies.
Kansas City: Andrews and McMeel,
1990. 116p. “Mortal matters”: indeed,
original & distinct.
Feinberg, Linda
Sones. I'm grieving as fast as I can:
how young widows and widowers can cope and heal. Far Hills, NJ: New Horizon Press, 1994.
180p.
Habermas, Gary R. Forever loved: a personal account of grief and resurrection. Joplin, MO:
College Press Pub. Co., 1997.
142p.
Ikerman, Ruth C. A
little book of comfort. Nashville: Abingdon, 1976. 79p. A masterpiece of
tenderness. Printing should never cease
for this little work.
Iserson, Kenneth V. Grave
words: notifying survivors about
sudden, unexpected deaths. Tucson,
AZ: Galen Press, 1999. 342p.
Two places. “Grave words”: what a play on words, but how direct for
those who have to bear the news to the bereaved.
Jackson, Edgar
Newman. The many faces of grief.
Nashville: Abingdon, 1977. 174p.
Jackson, Jewell
Nickie. The agony of grief. San
Antonio: Watercress Press, 1986. 83p.
Johnson, Margaret. Beyond
heartache: comfort & hope for
hurting people. Grand Rapids: Zondervan Pub. House, 1979. 199p.
Keller, Helen
(1880-1968). We bereaved. New York: L. Fulenwider, Inc., 1929. 39p.
Two places, because of the who wrote it. Want very much. Would like this for a gift and will snatch it up for ten times
the original price for even a worn copy—just because of the author.
Lindbergh, Anne Morrow. Hour of lead: sharing sorrow.
Illustrated by Etienne Delessert.
Minneapolis, MN: Redpath Press,
1986. 31p. “Hour of lead” seems to say it all, doesn’t it?
Linn, Erin. I know just how you feel:
avoiding the cliches of grief.
Illustrated by Art Peterson.
Cary, IL: Publishers Mark,
1986. 125p. Yes, finally, a exposé.
McClafferty, Carla
Killough. Forgiving God: a woman's
struggle to understand when God answers no. Grand Rapids, MI:
Discovery House Publishers;
Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1995. 127p.
Moore, James Wendell. When grief breaks your heart. Nashville:
Abingdon Press, 1994. 63p. Christian.
Parachin, Victor M. Grief
relief. St. Louis, MO: CBP Press, 1991. 124p. Almost questionable
in its simplicity. Almost sounds like a
cliché with insinuation of “Quick” grief relief.
Peerman, Frank. See
you in the morning. Nashville: Broadman Press, 1976. 94p.
On grief in Baptist biography.
Rinella, Maureen. Be
with me: a book of prayers to comfort
dying persons and their loved ones.
St. Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press,
1997. 72p. Christian.
Ryan, Karlene Kay. To
find hope: simple wisdom for those who
grieve. New York: Paulist Press, 1997. 59p.
Samuels, Arthur. Creative
grieving: from loss to enlightenment. New Orleans: Stress Free Publications, 1996.
144p.
Sanders, Catherine M. How to survive the loss of a child: filling the emptiness and rebuilding your
life. Rocklin, CA: Prima Pub., 1992. 246p.
Sawyers, Norma
Eileen. A personal grief & a reasonable faith: a mother's journey from tragedy to triumph in understanding the
Christian faith. Flemington,
MO: Dogwood Pub., 1991. 138p.
Simon, Leslie, & Jan
Johnson Drantell. A music I no longer heard: the
early death of a parent. New York,
NY: Simon & Schuster, 1998. 351p.
Simos, Bertha G. A time
to grieve: loss as a universal human
experience. New York: Family Service Association of America,
1979. 261p.
Simsic, Wayne. Cries
of the heart: praying our losses. Winona, MN:
Saint Mary's Press, Christian Brothers
Publications, 1994. 87p.
Smith, James
Alfred. Blessed are they that mourn--for they shall be comforted: understanding how to minister to those who
experience grief. Elgin, IL: Progressive Baptist Pub. House, 1988. 64p.
Christian.
Smith, Robert
Forest. Sit down, God--I'm angry.
Valley Forge, PA: Judson Press,
1997. 155p. Been here: love the
directness.
Smith-Greer, Becky. Keepsakes
for the heart. Pomona, CA: Focus on the Family; Dallas, TX:
Distributed by Word Books, 1990.
194p. What a gift?
Sumner, Alexander K. When love is a razorblade: (how to stay alive). Los Angeles, CA: April Pub., 1981. 97p.
Temes, Roberta. Living
with an empty chair: a guide through
grief. New York, NY Irvington Publishers, 1977. 80p.
1984, 110p. New York: New Horizon Press Publishers, 1992. 122p.
Tittensor, John. Year
one: a record. Fitzroy, Vic., Australia: McPhee Gribble; New York, NY, U.S.A.: Penguin Books, 1984 & 1986. 107p.
Treadway, David C. Dead
reckoning: a therapist confronts his
own grief. New York: BasicBooks, 1996. 260p.
Viorst, Judith. Necessary losses: the loves, illusions, dependencies and impossible expectations that all of us have to give up in order
to grow. New York: Simon and Schuster, 1986. 447p.
Large print ed.: South Yarmouth,
MA: J. Curley, 1986. 651p.
Two places. Descriptive, deep,
electric. How could one person
accomplish this? A masterpiece.
Wipf, Jane L. Blankets: a grief journey. Minneapolis, MN: Heartline II, 1993.
34p. Here we are, let’s just
snuggle. Who would “not” pick this up.
Woods, Kay Witmer. Visions
of the bereaved: hallucination or
reality? Pittsburgh, PA: Sterling House Publisher, 1998. 133p.
Yates, Elizabeth. Up the
golden stair: an approach to a deeper
understanding of life through personal sorrow. Nashville: Upper Room
Books, 1990. 63p. “Up the golden stair” seems to characterize
the “precious” nature of growth.
Zelenka, Linda. An
untimely loss: a passage to the gentle
side of grief. New York: Paulist Press, 1996. 41p.
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Indeed, all of the works about parents grieving child death could be placed
here. And we determine not to make a
negative comment at all on any book or title about child grief out of respect
for the children, for such has to be among the “worst loss” of all. The following just seemed to be among the
most striking or carried a unique description of pain.
Conrad, Bonnie
Hunt. When a child has been murdered:
ways you can help the grieving parents. Amityville, NY: Baywood
Pub., 1998. 152p.
Conrad, Bonnie
Hunt. When a child has died: ways you
can help a bereaved parent. Santa
Barbara: Fithian Press, 1995. 56p.
Crouthamel, Thomas G. When the unthinkable happens: a father's journey through grief. Bradenton, FL: Keystone Press, 1994.
151p.
Fumia, Molly. A
child at dawn: the healing of a memory. Notre Dame, IN: Ave Maria Press, 1989.
116p.
Lafser, Christine O'Keeffe. An empty cradle, a full heart: reflections for mothers and fathers after
miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death.
Foreword by Phyllis Tickle.
Chicago, IL: Loyola Press,
1998. 249p. Christian.
Mander, Rosemary. The care of the mother grieving a baby
relinquished for adoption.
Aldershot, Hants, England;
Brookfield, VT: Avebury, 1995.
220p.
McCracken, Anne, & Mary Semel, eds.
A broken heart still beats: after your child dies. Center City, MN: Hazelden, 1998. 295p.
Mehren, Elizabeth. After
the darkest hour, the sun will shine again:
a parent's guide to coping with the loss of a child. Foreword by Harold S. Kushner. New York:
Simon & Schuster, 1997.
188p.
Page, Carole Gift. Misty,
our momentary child: a mother's journey
through sorrow to healing.
Westchester, IL: Crossway Books,
1987. 152p.
Rosof, Barbara D. The
worst loss: how families heal from the
death of a child. New York: H. Holt, 1994. 290p.
White, Juanita. Never
too old for a lullaby: death of an
adult child. Illustrated by Kristi
McClendon. Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation, 1998.
Cochran, Larry, &
Emily Claspell. The meaning of grief: a
dramaturgical approach to understanding emotion. New York: Greenwood
Press, 1987. 183p. “Dramaturgical”: is that right?
Haig, Robin Andrew. The anatomy of grief: biopsychosocial and therapeutic perspectives. Springfield, IL: Thomas, 1990. 175p. “Biopsychosocial?”: is that right?
O'Connor, Joey. Heaven's
not a crying place: teaching your child
about funerals, death, and the life beyond. Grand Rapids, MI: F.H.
Revell, 1997. 208p. I know God will wipe away our tears, but
this title seems to “start” with the denial of grief or a denial of the impact
and pain of loss. Yuck.
Robbins, Martha A. Midlife
women and death of mother: a study of
psychohistorical and spiritual transformation. New York: P. Lang,
1990. 335p. Doctoral thesis, Harvard University. Trying to be “too” descriptive bespeaks not only a lack of
creativity but also a lack of insight, where “study” becomes fruitless for lack
of substantial application.
Ruiz, Shirley. Journey
to high places: a spiritual evolution. Walnut Creek, CA: Shastar Press, 1987.
386p. I’m sure I don’t
understand and might profit from reading this, but the title suggests (just to
me) a claim more surreal than real.
Von Hildebrand, Alice. By
grief refined: letters to a widow. Steubenville, OH: Franciscan University Press, 1994. 127p. Catholic. Who would be so insensitive as to give a
book by this title to any woman?
Woodward, Joan. The
lone twin: a study in bereavement and
loss. London; New York:
Free Association Books, 1998.
165p. “Lone twin” juxtaposed by
“study in” just has to be a mistake.
Zisook, Sidney, ed. Biopsychosocial
aspects of bereavement. Washington,
DC: American Psychiatric Press,
1987. 189p. “Biopsychosocial?”: is
that right?